Tune In and Make Balanced Decisions

How to Tune In and Make Balanced Decisions from Your Heart

Ever make a wrong decision and kick yourself for not listening to your heart?  Ha, it’s happened to all of us.  From minor decisions like what to wear to major decisions about where to live, if you should or shouldn’t change careers and if your relationships are working for you – many of us have at one point or another thought, “Why didn’t I listen to my heart?”

So how do you listen to your heart?  How do you tune in and make balanced decisions each and every tine?

Awareness. The first step is to become aware, both during those critical decision moments and in between, of the reality that there are many factors at work which are motivating your decisions.  You know that your brain and your thoughts are telling you one thing.  You know that your thoughts are strongly influenced by your emotions, namely fear, and you know that your body often kicks in and elicits a physical response which influences your emotions and your thoughts.

Be aware of these mechanisms.  Be aware that limiting thoughts are things that you can change, uncomfortable emotions are temporary states of feeling, and your physical reactions are the province of your body.  Most importantly, you are more than your thoughts, emotions and physical body.  You are something greater, bigger than all of those combined – you are an aspect of the divine, infinite and unlimited.  When you can set the thoughts, emotions and bodily sensations aside, and listen to your heart and what your soul tells you to do – then you begin to make balanced decisions.

Clearing. False beliefs and negative self talk can have a profound influence on your decisions.  For example, say based on how your parents dealt with their jobs, you believe that you have to stay at a job no matter how much you dislike it. You remember one of them saying, “There’s no reason to rock the boat.” Then when an opportunity comes up for a new job that sounds tailor-made for you, you pass on it because you are afraid of the change. Even if the money is good, fear takes over and your mind races with all kinds of reasons why you should stay where you are, denying what your heart wants.

In order to listen to your heart and make the right decisions for you, decisions that are based on clear and uncluttered thinking, then you need to clear away the false beliefs.  Clearing can be accomplished in a number of ways from meditation to SVH – Serenity Vibration Healing®, PSYCH-K^(TM), and EFT or Emotional Freedom Technique.  Hypnosis and other modalities will also help clear the clutter, false beliefs and negative self talk.

Practice. Practice making decisions based on your heart, asking yourself mentally, “What does my heart want right now?” Practice setting aside the external pressures and opinions of others and the internal influences like your limiting thoughts and fears. Focus on what you really want and listen carefully for the answer that your heart gives you.  You can begin practicing with smaller decisions like what to have for dinner and then build on your decision making skills.

It may seem silly to start with listening to your heart when it comes to everyday living. You’d be surprised at how many unbalanced decisions most people make out of habit. Often the decisions about what to eat or wear or which route to take to work, for example, are made by rote or habit. There’s little or no consideration of our heart’s desire when it comes to the mundane.  It’s an efficient way to live, but the seemingly inconsequential everyday decisions are a good place to focus on to cultivate the art of listening to your heart. You will probably be surprised by the answers.

Track the results. Journaling about your experiences is a very powerful way to help create a practice of balanced decision making via listening to the heart.  You can use the data and information you record to back up your practice.  For example, you may find that every time you allow yourself the opportunity to meditate on a decision, you make good decisions for yourself because your mind is quiet and you easily tune into your heart’s desire. Conversely, when you listen to others, you’re not as happy with your decision. Noticing the differences serves to enforce your meditative practice and it gives your conscious mind the proof it needs to continue on with the practice until it’s habitual.

Confidence and faith.  Letting go of the outcome once you’ve made a decision is an important step.  As you allow yourself to let go of the decision after it’s made, you will actually build confidence.  It’s about surrendering the outcome to the Creator or higher aspect of you that knows the big picture.  Your part is done knowing that you’ve made the best decision possible for yourself and then let it go with faith.

Balanced decisions, decisions based on your inherent mechanisms including your conscious thoughts, positive emotions and your heart, are the strongest decisions you can make.  When you make these types of decisions you are better able to let go of the outcome and have faith and confidence in your ability to handle what comes your way.  You are better able to make decisions that bring you the serenity you desire and deserve.

©2009 Deborah A. Lindholm

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